14 years


Today, my precious, fragile, beautiful first born son, Brendan Bjorn, turns 14 years old.

And I am in awe of him. I know many parents might say that about their child. We are certainly not an objective group. But I truly am in awe of my son. Despite all of his challenges, the physical pain, the hardships – he loves. He is love. He exudes love as he looks up at me and that smile grows ever bigger while his blue eyes work their way into a smiling squint.

And you can just feel the unconditional love of the angel that is him.ย 

Yesterday, I made a video (see here) to celebrate his journey thus far. As I rummaged through the plastic storage box which holds memories from his early days, I was brought to my knees.

My old journal that I started on January 30, 2004 – the day I found out I was pregnant with him.

Photos of me every month as I grew bigger with a child I had no idea would take me on this journey.

October 1, 2004.ย 

I still wish that I could look back at those photos and have it not be bittersweet, but rather just be sweet. But, it isn’t. After 4 miscarriages, to give birth to a child that the doctor tells you is perfectly healthy, is total elation! But, to look back at those photos 14 years later – with the often cruel wisdom of hindsight – and see your former self reflected back at you now…it is different. It is bittersweet. Because the me from today knows what the me from that glorious day didn’t know: That within a month’s time, my world would come crashing down as my perfectly healthy baby boy was diagnosed with severe brain damage from congenital CMV (cytomegalovirus).

October 1, 2018.

Today is a new day. My warrior angel Brendan Bjorn lies sleeping peacefully in the room next to me as I type out my thoughts in this blog. I will soon go into his room, give him the morning round of kisses and cuddles, and receive that gift that is Brendan. Like I said above, it is me who receives the biggest gift today. Later, his brother Declan and I will bring in his balloons (which are absolutely huge!) and sing happy birthday to the other half of our hearts…and I will continue to mask my worry and fear that how in a week from today, Brendan will be undergoing his biggest battle yet in the form of a spinal fusion.

Yes, today is about celebration! I wish all of you reading this could feel the love in the room that he radiates to all near him. Hopefully the birthday video will give you all a glimpse into the blessing that is Brendan Bjorn.

Happy 14th birthday, my angel, my baby boy, Brendan Bjorn!ย 

brendan newborn with me

6 thoughts on “14 years

  1. Mary

    Happy, happy birthday to Brendan. I know it is not an easy road for you or Brendan but his smile says it all. ๐ŸŽ‚๐Ÿ˜‡๐ŸŽ‰๐Ÿง๐Ÿฆ๐Ÿญ

  2. Clare Wallace

    Tracy, that video is beautiful, brought me to tears as I watched it while waiting in the car for my 2 kids to come out from school. He is always smiling! I donโ€™t know how you stay so strong, but as the song says because itโ€™s your child! Hope things go well next week,

  3. Natasja

    Hi Tracy, i knew i remembered that Brandanโ€™s birthday was in October!
    Hope you and the boys enjoyed it.
    I see a big surgery is coming up. I wish you a lot of strength.
    Did you find a house to make a forever home?
    Lots of love from the Netherlands from Natasja en a big birthday kiss from Mirthe for your gorgeous boys!

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